Breakpoint on the Botkins

Some time ago, someone sent me a link to a reference to the Botkin Daughters on Chuck Colson's Breakpoint/Prison Fellowship website, and I wanted to share it with readers here.

Healing from Covert (Emotional) Incest and Enmeshment: A List of Resources

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Discussion of the Botkin Family in the Press

Much gratitude to the author of the article, Gina McGalliard, who I believe extended great honor to the many earnest people who have followed this lifestyle in earnest, in their desire to honor and follow God. She didn't identify herself as a Christian, and I believe that she showed great integrity in the writing of this article a few years ago.

Recently, Empirical Magazine published another of McGilliard's articles entitled Homeschooling, Creationism, and Citizenship. I understand from the author that other more liberal publishers turned it down because she was not willing to exploit Christian homeschoolers in a negative way. I'm grateful to her integrity and the respect she's shown to those who follow the practice. Bravo, Gina!

Here is Gina's seminal article from a few years ago about patriarchy's model for daughters. (I finally decided since it now appears in so many other venues, I would post it here.)

HOUSE PROUD: 

The Troubling Rise of the Stay-At-Home Daughters

   by Gina McGilliard

   From Bitch Magazine, Issue 49 | Winter 2010, in an issue entitled Confidential

“Daughters aren’t to be independent. They’re not to act outside the scope 
of their father. As long as they’re under the authority of their fathers, fathers have the ability to nullify or not the oaths and the vows. Daughters can’t just go out 
independently and say, ‘I’m going to marry whoever I want.’ No. The father has 
the ability to say, ‘No, I’m sorry, that has to be approved by me.’”

There’s a lot of talk in American mainstream media lately 
about the diminishing role of men—fathers, in particular. Have feminism and reproductive technology made them obsolete? 
Are breadwinning wives and career-oriented mothers emasculating them?

Go Shopping !!! (...for books, that is!)

Covert or Emotional Incest:

(Non-sexual but gender related inappropriate usury of family members to meet unmet needs or to medicate shame)

• Silently Seduced (Adams)
• The Emotional Incest Syndrome (Love)
• Facing Love Addiction (Mellody)
• Trapped in the Mirror (Golomb)
• [I found this book to be very helpful to me, BTW.]
• (Also note links to online information in this blog post)

Sexual Abuse

• The Wounded Heart (Allender) [Note: This is a Christian book!]